tried to peer behind him, looking down the block to see if that familiar brown coat and white face would appear in the distance. It didnât. In fact there wasnât anyone coming at all, except a bunch of kids and they certainly didnât look like Mommy. They were a motley crew of girls and boys, ragged, with wild hairdos and unkempt jackets, hooting and making noise, and only when they were almost upon me did I recognize the faces of my elder siblings and my little sister Kathy who trailed behind them. I ran into their arms and collapsed in tears as they gathered around me, laughing.
3.
Kosher
My parentsâ marriage was put together by a
rov,
a rabbi of a high order who goes to each of the parents and sees about the dowry and arranges the marriage contract properly according to Jewish law, which meant love had nothing to do with it. See, my motherâs family had all the class and money. Tateh, I donât know where his family was from. Mameh was his meal ticket to America, and once he got here, he was done with her. He came here under the sponsorship of my motherâs eldest sister, Laurie, and her husband, Paul Schiffman. You couldnât just walk into America. You had to have a sponsor, someone who would say, âIâll vouch for this person.â He came first and after a few months sent for his familyâme, Mameh, and my older brother, Sam. I was two years old and Sam was four when we arrived, so I donât remember anything about our long, perilous journey to America other than what Iâve seen in the movies. I
have a legal paper in the shoebox under my bed that says I arrived here on August 23, 1923, on a steamer called the
Austergeist.
I kept that paper on my person wherever I went for over twenty years. That was my protection. I didnât want them to throw me out. Who? Anybodyâ¦the government, my father, anybody. I thought they could throw you out of America like they throw you out of a baseball game. My father would say, âIâm a citizen and youâre not. I can send you back to Europe anytime I want.â He used to threaten us with that, to send us back to Europe, especially my mother, because she was the last of her family to get here and she had spent a good deal of her life running from Russian soldiers in Poland. She used to talk about the Czar or the Kaiser and how the Russian soldiers would come into the village and line up the Jews and shoot them in cold blood. âI had to run for my life,â she used to say. âI held you and your brother in my arms as I ran.â She was terrified of Europe and happy to be in America
.
When we first got off the boat we lived with my grandparents Zaydeh and Bubeh on 115th and St. Nicholas in Manhattan. Although I was a tiny child, I remember Zaydeh well. He had a long beard and was jolly and always seemed to be drinking hot tea out of a glass. All the men in my family had long beards. Zaydeh kept a picture of himself and my grandmother on his bureau. It was taken while they were in Europe. They were standing side by side, Zaydeh wearing a black suit, with a hat and beard, and Bubeh wearing a wig, or
shaytl,
as was the religious custom. Bubeh was bald underneath that wig, I believe. Thatâs why women were supposed to keep their heads covered. They were bald
.
I enjoyed my grandparents. They were warm and I loved them the
way any grandchild loves a grandparent. They kept a clean, comfortable apartment, furnished with heavy dark mahogany pieces. Their dining room table was covered with a sparkling white lace tablecloth at all times. They were strictly Orthodox and ate kosher every day. You donât know anything about kosher. You think itâs a halvah candy bar. You need to read up on it because I ainât no expert. They got folks who write whole books about it, go find them and ask them! Or read the Bible! Shoot! Who am I? I ainât nobody! I canât be telling the world this! I donât