Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice Read Online Free

becomes able to anticipate and move to meet
Master's needs. The couple is increasingly blended into one
being. Often, the M/s dynamic involves spiritual growth that is
not common to relationships involving other power dynamics.
Both Master Skip and Master Steve consider Master/slave relationships to be about the spiritual body. I know of a number of
long-term marriages that incorporate an M/s structure, though
these are quite rare.

    ...people who know and follow the path of Mastery or slavery are called. They believe they were called to follow a different path than the ones our society prescribes for us."
    slave marsha, Keynote address,
Southwest Leather Conference December 5, 2003.
    Owner/slave: As Master Jim Glass points out: "With absolute
ownership comes absolute responsibility." Over the last year
or so, I've begun to notice increasing distinction made between
Master/slave and Owner/slave. My first exposure to the concept
occurred when SlaveMaster conducted an "Ownership" presentation at Master Taino's Northeast Master/slave Conference in
Washington, D.C. in July, 2005. Since then, I've noticed that the
term "Owner" is being applied to a relationship that is not based
on a negotiated M/s contract. The total "contract" is comprised of the slave's pledge to obey and to serve Master and the Master's
pledge to take complete responsibility for the slave (see the
example provided in Part VII). That's it. Master simply owns this
piece of property and its income producing capacity. The slave
exchanges total personal authority for total A-Z protection, care,
and emotional security.

    Now, we've come to the end of this part of the book, but just so
some readers don't feel left out, let me mention that I don't want
to get into Trainers and puppies or ponies here. Nor do I want
to start engaging discussions of swinging, polyamory or Gorean
traditions. Combinations spin out of control too quickly.
    So, to refocus - now that we've rolled through some forms of
BDSM relationships, a question comes to mind: What are you
looking for?
    • An occasional slave for play or a permanent slave?
    • A structured relationship or an amorphous one?
    • A monogamous relationship or a polyamorous set of
relationships? If poly, are you thinking of including
other slaves or other play partners?
    • Is your life to be centered on sadomasochism (SM
- sadomasochism is sexual pleasure or gratification
produced by inflicting pain - sadism - or by receiving
pain - masochism) or something else?
    Chapter Summary
    In this chapter I defined terms so that you will have a common
language for understanding the balance of this book. These
terms included:
    • boy/boi
    0 Daddy
    • Dom/Domme
    • Master - both as an adjective and as a noun

    • Owner
    • Protocols
    • Rituals
    • slave
    • Structured relationship
    • submissive
    • Trainer
    I described some relationships:
    • Husband/wife
    • Top/bottom
    0 Dom/submissive
    • Master/slave
    • Owner/slave
    That's all we need to cover right now. Next, we'll start in on some
self-examination before moving on to relationship issues.

     

What is your purpose in entering into a Master/slave relationship?
I like Master Bert Cutler's statement of purpose: To achieve "an
enduring relationship between a Master and slave who are worthy of each other." Master Bert goes on to comment that the
assumption, here, is that the relationship would last more than
two years. He also goes on to define "worthy" as: "Someone
whose contribution to your life is commensurate with your efforts
on their behalf; someone you are proud to call your Master or
your slave; someone who strives to excel in their role." (Master
Bert Cutler's Handout for presentation at Southwest Leather
Conference 2005: Finding a Worthy Master or slave.)
    This rasies the question: how do you find such a person - either
Master or slave? THAT answer, to a large extent, centers on
how clearly you can confront