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gift to him is to invite him out of his mode back into relationship with you, back into love.
    Men who don’t get invited out of their focus become fascist, rigid and one-dimensional. Men who aren’t gifted with femininity become obsessively driven toward a goal. World destructive politics are based on this masculine dissociation.
    On the other hand, when the feminine is not balanced by the masculine, it becomes addictive. Without masculineself-discipline and direction, you become addicted to chocolate, coffee, relationships, all kinds of things. If you don’t have the masculine edge brought into your life, there is a tendency to flow along, losing yourself in whatever you are involved with. Excessive masculine energy leads to abuse of others and the world; excessive feminine energy leads to self abuse.
    To men, I often suggest that they learn to enjoy a woman’s emotional fullness and embrace her in love regardless of her mood. The men say, “Embrace her emotions? She seems crazy!”
    To women, I often suggest they treat their man as a weary warrior. I suggest that women learn to enjoy their man’s focus and direction because that’s how men are. But invite them out. Attract them into love. Fill their weary hearts with your energy. Your loving energy will loosen his rigid stance. His embrace will penetrate your emotions with love.

    Why Can’t He Love Me When His Career Isn’t Going Well?
    It is usually easier for a woman to love her man when her job isn’t going well than it is for a man to love his woman when his job isn’t working out. When your man is fully loving you, you can share love with him even though your career isn’t going well. You are capable of sharing love with your partner even while you work out the problems in your career because love is your priority.
    But your man may not be fully capable of sharing love while his career isn’t going well since his quest for direction and freedom is most likely his priority. A woman might sayto her man, “Why can’t you love me? I love you. Can’t you be with me even though your project isn’t going well?” But he can’t be with her fully until he has aligned his life with his vision and begins to take care of business.
    For the feminine, love is the priority. Since the feminine has the ability to shift energy, it is possible for you to love and still take care of other projects.
    Within each man and woman, the masculine energy puts work before intimacy, whereas the feminine energy puts intimacy before work. Which part of yourself you choose to follow is up to you. Neither is wrong, and both masculine and feminine are worthy of respect, in both you and your partner.

    Why Does He Like to Go Places Without Me?
    Traditionally, most women have found their unique way of life in community, sharing with other women. The feminine connects with the flow of life. So, if the culture is healthy, women are naturally connected with who they are. They intuitively feel their place in the whole of the living world.
    The masculine, however, disconnects from life to find its purpose. The masculine always tries to figure out a way to integrate into life. Men must find their purpose and bring it back home. It’s not something they find in the natural flow of life, or in their intimate relationships.
    Most women, in a healthy culture, are already in the flow of love, already connected with what they love doing. Of course, very few cultures are healthy now, so most women, like most men, have lost connection with their essence. Women traditionally have opened to the earth, to all ofnature, to the birth of new life, and to life with others, in order to rediscover their essence.
    Most women find their purpose inside of life and intimate relationship. Most men find their purpose outside of life and intimate relationship. For instance, American Indian men might dance in the sun for days, or go on a vision quest without food or water, to reconnect with their purpose. This