It's a Guy Thing Read Online Free Page B
Author: David Deida
isn’t exactly everyday life.
Most men go outside of life to experience their purpose. They leave their relationships behind, temporarily. Their struggle is to bring their discovered vision back into their life, and back into their intimate relationship. Women find their essential purpose in life, as a lover of life. Their idea of filling their body and heart with love rarely involves going out into no-man’s land, hoping to receive a vision before dying of exposure.
Men find their essence by way of the quest. For women, it is a matter of magnifying love in a relationship. The archetype for men is the search for the Holy Grail, risking their lives, surviving, discovering and returning. The archetype for women is falling in love, discovering the ways of love and giving love. Women struggle to love, overcoming their doubt of love and their resistance to love. For men it is a struggle of, “Why the hell exist? I have to find out.”
We each have masculine and feminine energy within ourselves. So each of us, man and woman alike, must find our ultimate purpose and overcome our doubt of love.
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The Snap, Crackle and Pop of Sex
What Is Sexual Polarity?
How do we maintain love and passion in our intimate relationships for more than a few months? How do we regenerate love and desire for one another year after year?
Relationships are great at the beginning. Almost all new relationships are incredibly exciting and passionate. But over time something seems to happen. Things change.
There is a secret to maintaining the passion in emotional, sexual relationships. In moments of attraction and passion, there is an active principle called “sexual polarity.” One individual plays the strong masculine pole and one individual plays the strong feminine pole. This creates sexual polarity—an almost irresistible attraction between two people.
The principle of polarity is true in all emotional and sexual relationships, homosexual as well as heterosexual. In fact, we find polarity in all of nature. The masculine and feminine energies are like positive and negative electrical or magnetic qualities. If you have two magnets and put their north and south poles together, they attract each other. Opposite poles attract. But when you flip one magnet around and try to push the two north poles together, they repel. Like poles repel. This same principle of polarity also applies to intimate relationships.
Why Does My Career Turn Him Off?
Few people understand the unique energy of sexual polarity. To maintain sexual polarity, masculine energy must be persistent in its direction, vision, self-discipline and steadinessof love. The feminine energy must be full in its trust, its bodily appreciation of life, its gifts of radiant energy and its willingness to give and receive love. Most importantly, both man and woman must be willing to submit to love and make it their priority.
If you are more directional than your man, it will usually create a problem. If your career is more important to you than his is to him, you will begin to lose your trust in him and he will begin to lose sexual desire for you. This has nothing to do with “should” and “shouldn’t”: There is nothing wrong with you having a career. It is simply a law of polarity that directionality is a masculine attribute. If yours is stronger than his then the polarity will reverse. You begin to “carry” the masculine energy. This masculine energy in you may begin to repel the masculine energy in your man.
This is a tough concept for people in our culture to handle today, the sacred aspects of our intimate sexual relationships having been lost. Convenience and common financial needs have replaced love-commitment and heart-desire as the motivating forces in many relationships.
It’s great to be able to shift between masculine and feminine throughout the day. Both men and women should learn to animate masculine and feminine energy as they need them. But in moments of
Most men go outside of life to experience their purpose. They leave their relationships behind, temporarily. Their struggle is to bring their discovered vision back into their life, and back into their intimate relationship. Women find their essential purpose in life, as a lover of life. Their idea of filling their body and heart with love rarely involves going out into no-man’s land, hoping to receive a vision before dying of exposure.
Men find their essence by way of the quest. For women, it is a matter of magnifying love in a relationship. The archetype for men is the search for the Holy Grail, risking their lives, surviving, discovering and returning. The archetype for women is falling in love, discovering the ways of love and giving love. Women struggle to love, overcoming their doubt of love and their resistance to love. For men it is a struggle of, “Why the hell exist? I have to find out.”
We each have masculine and feminine energy within ourselves. So each of us, man and woman alike, must find our ultimate purpose and overcome our doubt of love.
3
The Snap, Crackle and Pop of Sex
What Is Sexual Polarity?
How do we maintain love and passion in our intimate relationships for more than a few months? How do we regenerate love and desire for one another year after year?
Relationships are great at the beginning. Almost all new relationships are incredibly exciting and passionate. But over time something seems to happen. Things change.
There is a secret to maintaining the passion in emotional, sexual relationships. In moments of attraction and passion, there is an active principle called “sexual polarity.” One individual plays the strong masculine pole and one individual plays the strong feminine pole. This creates sexual polarity—an almost irresistible attraction between two people.
The principle of polarity is true in all emotional and sexual relationships, homosexual as well as heterosexual. In fact, we find polarity in all of nature. The masculine and feminine energies are like positive and negative electrical or magnetic qualities. If you have two magnets and put their north and south poles together, they attract each other. Opposite poles attract. But when you flip one magnet around and try to push the two north poles together, they repel. Like poles repel. This same principle of polarity also applies to intimate relationships.
Why Does My Career Turn Him Off?
Few people understand the unique energy of sexual polarity. To maintain sexual polarity, masculine energy must be persistent in its direction, vision, self-discipline and steadinessof love. The feminine energy must be full in its trust, its bodily appreciation of life, its gifts of radiant energy and its willingness to give and receive love. Most importantly, both man and woman must be willing to submit to love and make it their priority.
If you are more directional than your man, it will usually create a problem. If your career is more important to you than his is to him, you will begin to lose your trust in him and he will begin to lose sexual desire for you. This has nothing to do with “should” and “shouldn’t”: There is nothing wrong with you having a career. It is simply a law of polarity that directionality is a masculine attribute. If yours is stronger than his then the polarity will reverse. You begin to “carry” the masculine energy. This masculine energy in you may begin to repel the masculine energy in your man.
This is a tough concept for people in our culture to handle today, the sacred aspects of our intimate sexual relationships having been lost. Convenience and common financial needs have replaced love-commitment and heart-desire as the motivating forces in many relationships.
It’s great to be able to shift between masculine and feminine throughout the day. Both men and women should learn to animate masculine and feminine energy as they need them. But in moments of
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