It's a Guy Thing Read Online Free
Author: David Deida
vision and direction. He also embraces you. He appreciates and honors you not only as a person but as a unique woman, as his cherished connection to the feminine aspect of the universe.
The feminine qualities include the ability to give love, nurturing and bring radiance to life, which attracts people into their bodies and their hearts. The more a woman does this, the more attractive she is to her man. Men are always attracted to radiant women. Radiance does not depend on specific physical features. Radiance is the beauty which shines from a woman’s happiness. It is the shine of her love.
Through nonjudgmental observation, we can discover how we limit our masculine strength of vision and our feminine strength of radiance. By venturing beyond our fears, doubts and uncertainties, men and women continue to grow sexually, emotionally and spiritually.
What Do Soap Operas and Sex Movies Have in Common?
Soap operas and romance novels are women’s pornography. Women disconnect from love when they lose themselves in the drama of emotions, just as men disconnect from love when they lose themselves in genital stimulation.
Many men complain about how difficult it is to communicate with a woman lost in her emotions. Many womencomplain that their man is too mechanical during sex. Neither soap operas nor sex movies are about love; they are about emotional dramatization and genital stimulation.
Men complain that women don’t communicate very clearly. A man asks his partner, “What are you feeling?” and she can’t answer in three words or less. Men constantly complain that women can’t focus clearly because they are so emotionally dramatic.
Men want their women to be more like men; men mean what they say; their word is final. When a man shakes hands on something that’s that. It doesn’t matter if his emotions change. He carries through with the agreement—or knows that he has failed.
Men become frustrated when a woman is too emotional to communicate her intentions clearly, or when she changes her mind: “This is impossible! I want a woman I can communicate with! She drives me crazy! Why do they always say they will do one thing, then do something else!” He gets very frustrated. Meanwhile, she withdraws more and eventually closes down.
A woman wants to feel a connection with her partner. She wants him to understand and validate her emotions. She wants to be felt. She wants to be loved. She wants him to be sensitive to her feelings rather than be so rigid about what she said she would do.
Both men and women demand the other be more like themselves. The message is, “Unless you are more like me, I can’t love you. Unless you stick to your word (or are sensitive to my feelings), I get angry (or hurt).”
A man tends to be in his mind and focused. A woman tends to be in her emotions. In order to give love to one another they must meet in the common ground of the heart: love.
Perhaps it would be good for men to become as emotionally expressive as women. Perhaps it would be good for women to say what they mean and not change their minds. This would make relationships easier, but it’s unlikely to happen very soon. In the meantime, men and women could practice giving and receiving love without trying to make their partner more like themselves.
Why Does He Say I’m Too Emotional When He Seems So Rigid?
This question points to a very common source of conflict in relationships.
For example, you might make a beautiful meal for your man. You sit down to eat together and he seems very grateful. He feels loved by you. Then, out of the corner of his eye he sees a magazine. He picks it up, starts reading, and suddenly he’s totally focused on reading. You’ll be hurt by this if you interpret his actions in terms that don’t apply to men.
Instead, you must realize that he is probably not consciously turning away from you. He has become absorbed in a mode which is a liability of the masculine. He can’t help it. Your
The feminine qualities include the ability to give love, nurturing and bring radiance to life, which attracts people into their bodies and their hearts. The more a woman does this, the more attractive she is to her man. Men are always attracted to radiant women. Radiance does not depend on specific physical features. Radiance is the beauty which shines from a woman’s happiness. It is the shine of her love.
Through nonjudgmental observation, we can discover how we limit our masculine strength of vision and our feminine strength of radiance. By venturing beyond our fears, doubts and uncertainties, men and women continue to grow sexually, emotionally and spiritually.
What Do Soap Operas and Sex Movies Have in Common?
Soap operas and romance novels are women’s pornography. Women disconnect from love when they lose themselves in the drama of emotions, just as men disconnect from love when they lose themselves in genital stimulation.
Many men complain about how difficult it is to communicate with a woman lost in her emotions. Many womencomplain that their man is too mechanical during sex. Neither soap operas nor sex movies are about love; they are about emotional dramatization and genital stimulation.
Men complain that women don’t communicate very clearly. A man asks his partner, “What are you feeling?” and she can’t answer in three words or less. Men constantly complain that women can’t focus clearly because they are so emotionally dramatic.
Men want their women to be more like men; men mean what they say; their word is final. When a man shakes hands on something that’s that. It doesn’t matter if his emotions change. He carries through with the agreement—or knows that he has failed.
Men become frustrated when a woman is too emotional to communicate her intentions clearly, or when she changes her mind: “This is impossible! I want a woman I can communicate with! She drives me crazy! Why do they always say they will do one thing, then do something else!” He gets very frustrated. Meanwhile, she withdraws more and eventually closes down.
A woman wants to feel a connection with her partner. She wants him to understand and validate her emotions. She wants to be felt. She wants to be loved. She wants him to be sensitive to her feelings rather than be so rigid about what she said she would do.
Both men and women demand the other be more like themselves. The message is, “Unless you are more like me, I can’t love you. Unless you stick to your word (or are sensitive to my feelings), I get angry (or hurt).”
A man tends to be in his mind and focused. A woman tends to be in her emotions. In order to give love to one another they must meet in the common ground of the heart: love.
Perhaps it would be good for men to become as emotionally expressive as women. Perhaps it would be good for women to say what they mean and not change their minds. This would make relationships easier, but it’s unlikely to happen very soon. In the meantime, men and women could practice giving and receiving love without trying to make their partner more like themselves.
Why Does He Say I’m Too Emotional When He Seems So Rigid?
This question points to a very common source of conflict in relationships.
For example, you might make a beautiful meal for your man. You sit down to eat together and he seems very grateful. He feels loved by you. Then, out of the corner of his eye he sees a magazine. He picks it up, starts reading, and suddenly he’s totally focused on reading. You’ll be hurt by this if you interpret his actions in terms that don’t apply to men.
Instead, you must realize that he is probably not consciously turning away from you. He has become absorbed in a mode which is a liability of the masculine. He can’t help it. Your
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