by far is whether we
are gay. In all our years, we’ve never worked with a single gay dancer, at
least not that we know of. It doesn’t make sense for a gay guy to work at a
club that caters to women when he could easily work at a gay bar and make a lot
more money—as well as have more fun.
Think about it. Men have a higher disposable income than
women and spend way more money in the sex business. A gay guy would bank at a
gay bar but not at a straight bar. So why would he settle for less money? You
can see why a straight man would do it—because we get off on all that female
attention. In fact, some straight men would probably do it for free!
Jealousy and Fights
Jealousy is not very common. The guys are all about
themselves when it comes to making money, but there is a silence code. This
silence code is what keeps the guys from talking trash about one another at the
club. Most dancers are respectful and try to support one another by helping each
other out with group acts. The dancers who stray from the silence code or who
stir up trouble eventually get pushed out or kicked out.
With so much testosterone in the building, you would imagine
that there would be lots of fights at male dance clubs. Over the years, we had
probably two to three fights per year. These happen for many different reasons.
Most arguments end with yelling, but a few come to blows. Alcohol is usually
involved. Sometimes a prank gone bad or someone getting sick of the hazing will
spark tempers. Many times, a new guy will come in, and his insecurities or lack
of social skills will make him try to establish dominance. This is a very bad
idea nine out of ten times.
Many people get the impression dancers are sissies or timid.
This is typically a myth. Many of the guys practice boxing, MMA (Mixed Martial
Arts), jiu jitsu and other full-contact sports. Some are even professional
fighters. The aggressive new guy will learn a hard lesson very fast if he gets
out of line.
Almost every club has an enforcer. This is the guy whom the
other guys look to handle dancers getting out of control. The funny thing is
these are generally the nicest guys who don’t like to fight, but because they
may have a skill or strength, they usually have to check someone who is not
being part of the team.
Stripper Dads
Most of our friends who are dancers and have kids are
upfront with their kids about their work. However, one friend managed to keep
it a secret from his son until he was fifteen. This friend was taking a call
for a strip-o-gram and had to pull up the website for the club he danced at.
When his son sat down in front of the computer and saw a picture of his
shirtless dad advertising a male strip club, his jaw dropped and he was
speechless. The friend knew he could no longer hide his secret and so he came
clean.
Oddly, when we ask guys with sons if they would let them
become dancers, nine out of ten say they would prefer that their sons not
dance. They say they don’t hate the job, but they all want what’s best for
their kids. Which leaves the question, “If the life and job are so great, why
not?” The main reason they give is that they do it so their kids won’t have to.
There is the one out of ten dancers who is different. We’ve seen those dads
encourage their sons to learn how to dance and sing. These are usually the dads
who want to be famous.
Types of Strippers
Strippers come in all sizes, shapes, colors and
temperaments. But there are some classic archetypes each club seems to have at
one time or another. Here are a few.
The Horny-All-the-Time Guy : Ever hear the story of
the rooster and the farmer? Well, there’s this rooster on the farm that keeps screwing
the animals to death. One day, the farmer is in the fields and hears a loud, “Mooo!”
The farmer runs to the cow and sees the rooster on top screwing the cow. The
farmer says, “Damn rooster! You’re gonna screw yourself to death!” Next day,
same thing, except the rooster