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become better, prettier, more successful, or more attractive. The mind is usually not supportive of your irresistibility. It likes to talk about your mistakes and how bad, unattractive, stupid, or unworthy you are. (By the way, none of those things your mind talks to you about are actually true, but unless you become aware that you are not your mind, you believe them to be true.)
    The real truth is that it doesn't matter how many mistakes you've made in the past or how many relationships have not worked out. It also doesn't matter how much you weigh, how old you are, or what you do for a living. You can be absolutely irresistible starting right now. The rest of this book will show you how.
Everything Is as It Should Be
     
    There are no coincidences. What you have in your life you attracted to yourself, consciously or unconsciously. Everything is exactly as it should be. Every joy, challenge, opportunity, and circumstance—including the fact that you are reading this book—is exactly what you need to serveyour own personal, irresistible evolution. None of this is coincidence.
    Many women struggle against what's happening in their lives, as though things should be different. They don't recognize that when one struggles against the moment, one actually struggles against the entire universe. This constant battle of resistance is deadly to our irresistibility. Every bit of disappointment, anger, pain, upset, and disharmony we experience is a result of our resistance to, or disagreement with, some current aspect of our life.
    Conversely, when we stop resisting or disagreeing with how our life is showing up and truly surrender to the fact that everything is as it should be, we get back in sync with the universe and have instant access to greater personal power, clarity, and irresistibility.
    It's important to note that understanding "everything is as it should be" does not mean you roll over and play dead, stay in an abusive or unloving relationship, or become complacent. Acknowledging reality empowers you. It puts you in the driver's seat of your life and turns the ignition.
    The practice of acknowledging reality is called making is-ness your business. In other words, get more interested in reality, or what is, rather than complaining or wishing things would be different. (Side note: the notion of is-ness has been mentioned in everything from religion to spirituality to self-improvement to science. While I didn't create it, I do find it incredibly useful, as will you.)
    In short, here's what making is-ness your business means: engage in your life with enthusiasm exactly as it is, regardless of your likes and dislikes, your preferences, ideas, beliefs, and opinions about how things should be or could be. Unconditionally allow things to be the way they are. When you deal with what is, or your is-ness, you can then choose who you'd like to be in relationship to that.
    Making is-ness your business is the secret to being powerful and magnetic in your life. When you consistently engage with your life exactly as it is—not as you would prefer it—you're no longer held hostage by your circumstances or victimized by the world. Here's an example. Let's say you're stuck in traffic. Being in gridlock, at that moment, is your is-ness. Of course, you don't prefer to be stuck in traffic, but that is how it is. You have two choices: you can moan and complain about it (resist your is-ness) or you can surrender (make is-ness your business) and enjoy it. Enjoying it may look like listening to the radio and rocking it out to your favorite tunes (what I affectionately call car dancing), listening to educational or personal development CDs, making phone calls that need to be handled, or simply relaxing back into your seat. What I find so powerful is that very often, when I genuinely surrender to traffic, not only does my frustration quickly subside, but the traffic also begins moving quite quickly again as well.
    Important caveat: you can't practice