spanked?” Kristina’s eyes opened wide. There was no repulsion visible in her expression and her hands remained calmly placed in her lap .
Suzanne kept a straight face. She was good at reading people and Kristina was very curious. Good start. “Yes, some do. Other’s play an older role. My question is, how do these couples determine the age-bracket and why? What are their variables and how do they employ them? What is gained or lost? Wh at dynamic occurs when other people, such as extended family members, interact as multiples? Ultimately, what is the provocation to engage in this lifestyle?”
“I don’t know what to say. I’m captivated,” Kristina said, thinking. “If you don’t mind my asking, what got you into this research?”
“I was counseling a friend of mine who verbalized interest in pursuing the lifestyle with her girlfriend. Although drawn to it, she was afraid there was something wrong with both of them. That’s when the questions started.”
“What’s the problem if they are two consenting adults and no one got hurt?” Kristina asked.
“That was my disposition. However, as we talked, we discovered there was much more under the surface. She desper ately desired control, direction, and discipline. To her, it felt like she put female independence back thousands of years by wanting this woman to be her mommy.”
“It sort of sounds that way, especi ally i f the equ al rights issues were involved. I would cert ainly see that attitude forming for those involved in a heterosexual relationship. I would think there are very few women today that would appreciate a man being invited to have that kind of control. What I don’t understand is that i f she trusts her partner, why not? What h arm could it do if it satisfies both of their needs? ”
Suz a nne w a s impressed with the girl’s thought process. She w as open-minded and genuinely objective. “Th at is e xactly how I feel. So, do you think you might be interested?”
“Absolutely! It sounds fascinating.”
“It would require a lot of personal research and serious soul searching. You’ll need to be very honest with your own preconception of life and de al with any prejudice in your belief system in order to approach this objectively. Do you think you could do that?”
“I’m pretty open to other people’s preferences. One of my sisters is gay and seems really happy. I mean, who am I to judge, right?”
“Very good. I like that way of thinking. I also believe th at this approach will greatly benefit you in your writing. Bec ause of that, I’m offering you a position as my co-author.”
“Are you serious?” Kristina asked, stunned.
“Of course I’m serious. I’ve read several of your pieces and recognize your talent to puzzle together information and present it in an informative and palatable m anner for any level of reader. I want to publish this study for both professional and layman us age . It would require a one year commitment from you with authorization of a very generous stipend.”
“I don’t mean to sound ungrateful, but why me? I know nothing about alternative lifestyles.”
“I see something in you that has tremendous promise. I’m also paying it forward. When I was your age, I had a professor who gave me a break. I was very insecure and self-conscious, and people believed I was stupid because I looked like this, “she swept her hand over the length of her body,” He gave me the confidence to explore my options and the means to follow my goals. It if wasn't for him, I would never have gotten where I am today. I’m 41, a full professor with tenure, 6 publications, and yearly research grants for whatever I want to pursue. Not too bad for a girl from a low-income family from Nebraska, huh? Well?” Suz anne waited patiently, seeing the girl struggle. “ I re ally believe you can do this. Don’t be afraid to try something new. I won’t let you fall, I