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underwear, what have you).
     
    On the other hand, if a guy likes you, if he wants to date you or wants to have a relationship, you'll see him wanting to spend more time with you, not less. This (and not just his sexual interest) is how you tell how much a man likes you (the answers vary from “not at all” to “restraining order”).
     
    Anyway, that's it. That's truly, seriously, honestly all you need to know to figure out whether or not he likes you.
     

REAL MANSLATIONS EXAMPLES FROM THE
DATING TRENCHES *
    Now, once again, I can hear you out there:
     
    No, you don't understand. My situation is more complex.
     
    No. If you are wracking your brains about why a man is behaving as he is, trust me, you are almost certainly wracking the wrong thing.
     
    Let's take a look at one of the most obvious examples from real life where we can apply what we're talking about—the “booty call.”
     
    So let's say that you met a guy at a bar. You flirt, you talk, you laugh. He asks for your number. He tells you that he's going to call you. You go home thinking that you're going to hear from him. But you do not. Not the next day and not the day after that. But then, three weeks later, he calls you at eleven thirty at night and says that he has been thinking of you since the two of you met. He said he had wanted to call you, but he couldn't get up the nerve. But he really liked you, he just hasn't been able to get you off his mind, he wants to see you—and what are you doing right now?
     
    Now, this conversation is never not a booty call. Why?
     

First, the Golden Rule
    Is there a conflict between what he said and what he did? Yes, there sure is. He said he would call you but did, you know, other things that were not calling. He then said he couldn't stop thinking about you, blah blah blah. But that still doesn't change the fact that what he did was not call you. For three weeks. Until eleven thirty at night.
     
    So given that a discrepancy exists between what he said and what he did, we can follow the golden rule and focus solely on his behavior—the DID part. Here's what he did:
     
Got your number
Did not call for three weeks (even though he could have at any moment)
Finally called you at 11:30 p.m.
Attempted to get together with you right then

The Two Big Questions
    Let's analyze that stuff using our two questions.
     
Might he think that this behavior will get him laid? Yep. That's certainly the most desirable ending to the evening from his perspective.
Might he think that this behavior will maximize his time with you? Nope. He had your number. If spending a lot of time with you was a priority, why did he deprive himself of you for three weeks? And why did he wait until the middle of the night? The answer is that he wants to spend as little non-sex time with you as humanly possible.
    This guy wanted to do you, and if you did it, you likely won't hear from him again. Well, maybe in another few weeks if he thought he could get away with it again.
     
    I'm not trying to depress you. I just want you to be able to spot a douche when you see one. And that's how you do it.
     
    But what if the guy isn't a douche? (Hey, it happens.) Same rules apply. Let's look at another example—this time, one based on a question I got at manslations.com.
     
    A woman wrote to me concerned that her man wouldn't tell her how he felt about her. When they met, they lived in separate countries, but soon they were calling, emailing, and even making regular international visits. He asked her to be his girlfriend, and they became exclusive. He asked her to move to his country when she finished grad school.
     
    All this, but he would not talk about his feelings for her, even when she asked. He said that he was a “very private person” and didn't like “being probed for information.” *
     
    She didn't want to consider moving to be closer to him unless he was in love with her, so she wrote to me for help.
     
    How do we manslate this situation?