father.
One day when they were babysitting us, I was watching a movie. In the movie the girlâs father died. When my parents came home, I was crying my eyes out.
âWhatâs the matter?â my father asked, sitting down on the couch with me.
âAre you going to die?â
âWhy are you asking that?â
âBecause I saw a movie, and the girlâs daddy died. Are you going to die?â
âIâm not going anywhere.â He always used to tell me that and I really believed him, up until I was in my twenties. I didnât want anything to happen to my father.
Once when I young, he came home with bruises on his arms. I asked what had happened, and he told me that the bad policeman did that to him. I asked why and he said because policemen werenât nice.
Not long after that, I was driving in the car with my mother, and a police cruiser pulled up next to my side of the car when we were stopped at a red light. The policemen looked over at me and started waving. I opened my window and yelled at them.
âYouâre bad. You hurt my daddy. I donât like you.â
My mother was horrified.
âOh, my God. Iâm so sorry. She doesnât know what sheâs saying. She didnât mean that.â
The cops didnât know what to think because here was this sweet-looking little girl yelling at them, telling them that she didnât like them because they hurt her daddy.
During this time my father was running his crew from the Wimpy Boys Social Club on Thirteenth Avenue in Bensonhurst, an old Italian neighborhood in the heart of Brooklyn. The club moved to a second location on Thirteenth Avenue later, but I really didnât go there much.
Back in the day there were Mob-run âsocial clubsâ from different crime families on almost every avenue in Brooklyn. My fatherâs name for his club was, of course, ironic because âwimpyâ was the exact opposite of what they all were.
There were about thirty guys in his crew, either full-blooded Italian or of partial Italian descent. Some were made men, while others were young associatesâmobsters in training hoping to become members of the Colombo crime family.
There were Mob guys everywhere. They would just hang outsideâsometimes on lounge chairsâdrinking and smoking cigarettes. Everything was so open back then and everybody was just so free-spirited. No one was thinking about the cops. Thatâs just the way it was. Thatâs how I remember Brooklyn.
My father usually left the house at 11 A.M. to go to the club and heâd be back by 5 P.M. for dinner. We all had to be in the house by that time and have dinner together. Dinner was at five, every day. He left whatever he was doing at the club to be home with us.
No matter what they had going onâcard games, whateverâheâd tell his crew: âTime for me to go.â If he wanted to have a talk with the members of his crew after dinner, they would have to come to the house. It was very rare that he went back out after dinner, unless he was going out with my mother.
But during the day the social club was where they met to talk business, take care of business and play cards. They ran numbers from the club, gambled and lent money; Iâm sure they planned a lot of hits there. The club was the place where they had to show face every day. Like a regular job, they had to be there.
And they all had to be dressed appropriately. They couldnât go there looking like slobs, because my father wanted everybody to be clean-cut. His crew had to look like they were ready to do business, not like they were ready to hang out in the streets. My father was very strict about it.
A friend of mine, Sal, who used to hang out there, told me that he went to the club one day without shaving. My brother Greg told him he had to go home.
âWhy do I have to go home?â Sal asked.
âWhen you come back with a clean shave, you can come in