for someone.
For me, describing the best sex I ever had is impossible. At different parts of my life, great sex had differing meanings.
For example, in my still-virginal dating years, having a guy touch my breasts and get me all hot yet satisfied in some way
was fabulous. Later, when I had fallen into a serious rut with my then-husband, doing something slightly out of the ordinary—which,
sadly, happened rarely—was great. Now, since Ed and I share so much and can communicate so well, we make many of our experiences
“the best.” Okay, that’s a cop-out, but it’s the best I can do. Many of my respondents had the same problem.
A thirty-two-year-old woman wrote:
There’s no specific “best,” just many times with my husband. It is so
great
because there is total trust between us. We each know that if we are trying something new, and one of us isn’t completely
enjoying it, we can stop without guilt. The greatest thing about sex with my hubby, he is a
giver!
He wants me to climax every time and he feels like he isn’t doing his “job” if I haven’t! He is
not
at all selfish!
A forty-five-year-old man wrote:
What a difficult question to answer! I don’t know that I could ever narrow it down to one particular episode—I know for sure
I have lots and lots of fond memories. One of the things my wife and I have going for us is our honesty.
It all began one day long ago when I got us a day-use hotel room. I sent my wife there with the key, told her to read the
instructions I had left her in the room and follow them to the letter. She did, including writing answers to a series of questions
about what she thought I was going to do with her and to her and how she felt about it. I had made a list of possible activities
including blindfolding, light bondage, fairly aggressive spanking, oral and vaginal intercourse.
Later I read the answers, learned a lot, and we’ve been communicating honestly and clearly since then. How fond a memory that
day is—especially since she felt so close to me, too. She calls it one of our “special” times.
A thirty-eight-year-old woman wrote:
I feel that the best sex is when I feel totally excited and the person with whom I am making love is so into me and I am so
into him that it just flows. It feels so good with no inhibitions or holding back. Just pleasure.
A fifty-four-year-old man wrote:
The best sex probably was the time that I was stroking my wife’s clitoris and I kept doing it. She asked me to stop but I
kept it up. I also kissed her breast and sucked her nipple, but she told me to stop so she could focus. She began to wriggle
and move wildly after several minutes while I slowly continued to rub her. All of a sudden she started shaking violently.
I continued to stroke as she came once and then a second time. I mounted her and as my penis slid into her vagina, she came
again. When I started to climax, she shook and went crazy and cried. It was fantastic. We do it that way occasionally now,
but it isn’t the same as that first time.
A fifty-four-year-old man wrote:
That has to be my first lover. She went wild when she climaxed, digging her nails in my back and biting my shoulder. She not
only gave me pleasure but made me feel like a great lover.
A forty-five-year-old man wrote:
I guess that would be when my partner and I climaxed at the same time while I was inside her. This is difficult to achieve
for us, because she usually cannot orgasm through penetration alone.
We started by mutually masturbating each other while kissing, then we went at each other orally in the sixty-nine position.
As I got close to coming, I changed positions and continued cunnilingus to bring her closer to orgasm. We finally got into
the missionary position and as I slowly fucked her, I continued clitoral stimulation, first with my finger and then with an
Eroscillator. When I felt her muscles contract around my cock I knew she would soon come, so I began