the lack of heightââ she eyed me up and down in no time at all ââyouâre bound to stand out.â
This from a woman who was shorter than me and had blue hair?
But I kept my thoughts to myself.
âChallenges can be good,â I said, âfor me and for Iceland.â
She smiled for the first time.
âYouâre a little plucky,â she said, âarenât you? I kind of like that.â
âAre Icelanders prejudiced?â I couldnât stop myself from asking.
âNot at all,â she said. âTheyâre just all tall. And blond. And not Jewish.â
Until sheâd brought up the subject of my religion, it hadnât occurred to me to wonder that it might be strange to be a short, dark-haired Jew in Iceland. Maybe I hadnât thought about the last so much because Judaism had never been a salient feature of my existence and was more like one of the less prominent lines on my résumé, like my high-school job at Dunkinâ Donuts.
In fact, it wasnât until I was eight that I even learned I was Jewish and even then it was by accident.
Aunt Bea had just given birth to Joe, her first, and they were getting ready to baptize him. I was curious about the process, having never seen one before.
âWhy would you know anything about it?â Aunt Bea had asked me in a rare unguarded moment. âYour mother was Jewish.â
I had known so little about my mother, other than that sheâd died while having me. Women arenât supposed to die in childbirth anymore, all the books tell you that it just doesnât happen, but sometimes it does.
A decade before, Iâd been a fan of the TV program E.R., until one night when I saw an episode called âLoveâs Labors Lost.â It was about a woman who goes into the hospital to have a baby and everything goes wrong, one thing after another, until the woman dies. It was like they were playing the story of my birth, and after that I could never watch the show again, had no interest in any medical show or movie of any sort.
After my motherâs death at the moment of my birth, my father raised me until I was three. It was at that point that the constant reminder I represented to him of my mother, whom he had loved dearly, became too much for him. I was sent to live with Aunt Bea and Uncle Thornton, while my dad departed for Africa where he pursued work as an archaeologist. He wrote often, and came to visit a couple of times a year, his visits always initially having the forced formal feel of royalty calling. I cherished those visits, kept what warm moments transpired during them locked in a special treasure chest in my heart. But it always seemed that no sooner had we got used to one another once more, he was off again.
Uncle Thornton was kind to me in the ways that Aunt Bea was not, but when he died not long after their third child was born, I was left without an ally in the household. Aunt Bea was of a mind that I needed to earn my way there and the form that earning took was in helping to care for her three spoiled children. The upside was that in caring for them, I learned a trade that would help me care for the children of others, like now.
Still, finding out I was Jewish had come as a surprise, not necessarily an unpleasant one, but a surprise nonetheless. Once I knew, I clung to it as the only remaining legacy, other than the pearls, of my mother. Aunt Bea tried to shrug it off as some kind of obstinate whim I had taken into my head, and there was no one to teach me about my religion, but I clung to it all the same. I might not practice it very much, might not know enough about it, but it was a part of who I was, where I came from, who Iâd always be.
Mrs. Fairly wanted to know some more about my experience with children, so I told her about my years helping Aunt Bea raise her three, neglecting to mention the parts about those three abusing me in every way their evil little minds