sweat on an elliptical machine while staring at a concrete wall or a depressing 24-hour news channel, and avoiding all of the foods you really love, is not going to make you ageless. Don’t “battle” aging when you can dance with life, moving your body joyously. The perfect combination of weight training, low-impact aerobics, and interval training isn’t going to do it either. If you have a passion for tweaking your workout routine, by all means go ahead and do that, but don’t think you have found the magic formula. The real fountain of youth is the fountain of happiness, well-being, and connection with what Tosha Silver calls “the Divine Beloved” (or God—and you get to call it whatever you want, whether it’s God, Goddess, Source, your Higher Power, the Universe, All That Is, or any other name that speaks to your heart and spirit). The anti-aging prescription is to love life, try new things, and savor your experiences. Joy comes from feeling connected to the life force.
While your skin may not glow as it did when you were 20, you can glow with vitality if you see yourself as an expression of the Divine and a being through which the Divine Beloved operates. For you, agelessness may mean you finally find the courage to stop dyeing your hair to hide the gray, or it may mean you finally start dyeing it because it makes you feel better and you don’t care what anyone thinks of your decision. You get to decide what makes you feel ageless and how you want to express yourself. If your daughter says, “Oh, Mom, you’re too old to wear that,” tellher, “No, I’m not!” Learn the skill of standing up to and defying the cultural editors of our joy and freedom—especially in your own family. We have to teach our daughters to become ageless too. They need to reject the notion that at a certain age, their value begins to decline. Those lessons start with you.
You can turn back the hands on the clock when it comes to physical health and vitality by being open to what’s new but not afraid to hold on to what’s old if it still works for you. If you’re an analog woman in a digital age and you despise figuring out how to operate a new piece of technology, enjoy the fact that, having been around for a few years, you can you trust your judgment about whether you need to learn this skill. If you feel like trying something new, try it simply because you want to, not because you’re afraid of being left behind. On one hand, listening to new bands and musical performers will help you to remain ageless, just like spending time around people 20, 30, and even 40 years younger than you are will help you stay connected to what is happening now. What you will also discover is that interests in things like art and music are completely ageless. I know 20-year-olds who adore the music of Jimi Hendrix and Bruce Springsteen and are into vinyl records. My tango community encompasses people from 25 to 75. Age couldn’t matter less. Agelessness means you make your decisions based not on a fear of looking foolish but on feeling comfortable in your body and being keenly interested in the world around you.
SACRED FEMININE ENERGY
The energy of receiving and accepting balances the energy of doing and acting that we get pulled into much too easily. A crisis or intense call to change can make us realize that we can’t go on using up all our vital energy and not replenishing it, always doing and rarely receiving. I call this “donating bone marrow.” Energetically, it really is that!
It’s not just women who are in transition. Around the globe, people are aware that life is changing. Astrologically, we are experiencing what’s known as “the turning of the ages,” when the planet Earth moves back into the eleventh house of the zodiac.This is a point at which the feminine rises in partnership with the masculine—both within us and between men and women. Even if you don’t follow astrology, you can see that human beings are