Assertiveness for Earth Angels: How to Be Loving Instead of Too Nice Read Online Free Page B

relationships. Spiritual growth also calls for you to take 100 percent responsibility for everything that you see, feel, and think.
    The Original Trauma
    After you’re born, you look around as a baby for that unconditional love that you had in heaven. Your parents love you, but like all earthly humans, their hearts are partially closed. Your parents, like all people, have fears that block them from the full experience of love.
    You immediately go into withdrawal, like an addict quitting drugs cold-turkey. Where’s the love? Where’s the love? is your panicked cry, as you desperately seek that delicious feeling of heavenly bliss and joy. Your parents do their best to keep you happy, but you unconsciously know that something’s missing.
    For your entire life, you seek that feeling of unconditional love. You meet someone and think, This is it! You believe that each new person is the source of the love you desperately seek.
    Deep down, you remember how you felt in heaven. There, you felt completely accepted for who you are. You felt lighthearted, optimistic, carefree, and completely loved and loving.
    Most of all, you felt safe. In heaven, there was no sense of stress, strain, or danger. Everyone was trustworthy, and no one wanted anything from you, except for you to be happy.
    Doesn’t that sound heavenly?
    So you spend a lifetime looking for that sense of approval, safety, peace, and love. You may find that feeling temporarily in relationships, food, alcohol, or drugs. Some people encounter this bliss when they’re in nature, exercising, having sex, shopping, or engaged in a creative process. For most, it’s fleeting.

    What’s helpful to know is that we can never entirely replicate heaven’s high vibrations in our earthly world of duality. We can come very close, and we can have pockets of moments where we’re one with love. But it’s unrealistic to think that we can maintain that state at all times.
    The best you can do is to keep the doorway to heaven open in your heart. This allows you to have a continual warm feeling of love every day, no matter what’s going on in your life or in the world.
    In meditation one day, I heard and felt the presence of Archangel Michael. He explained the importance of enjoying life, no matter what’s going on. He said that very often, we put our happiness in the future. We think that happiness is conditional, based upon certain achievements, such as earning enough money, accolades, or approval; losing weight; getting married; buying a new house; being published; or some other accomplishment. While those experiences can be very exciting and fulfilling, they still don’t replicate that complete feeling of safety and approval that we have when we’re in heaven.
    You get close to those heavenly feelings when you’re balancing giving and receiving. When you’re only giving, you’re excluding yourself from the sense that you deserve and need love, too. So it’s a matter of focusing upon service and giving from your soul, and also giving to yourself.
    Pure Giving
    The only form of giving that leads to spiritual growth and true peace is when you give because you’re guided to. Doing so because you feel guilty, sorry for someone, or obligated is giving from a place of fear. That means you’d be acting from your lower self, and the gift—whether it’s time, money, help, advice, support, or love—would be tainted with the lower frequencies of that guilt, fear, or obligation energy.
    As Earth Angels, we’re here to give, help, and heal. And the reason why we give is the difference between creating a life of joy for ourselves and others . . . and living like a victim or martyr in misery:
If you’re giving because you hope that you’ll be appreciated and loved for all that you do, you’ll constantly feel disappointed that you’re not getting as much in return as you gave. You’ll also have